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Breasts On A Plane

Posted by Amy Hatch Sep 19, 2008

Yeah, you heard me.

I said, breasts on a plane.

If that makes you uncomfortable, apparently you aren't alone. Catherine Connors of Toronto recently breastfed her young son on a WestJet flight from Vancouver to Toronto, when a flight attendant intimated that she should cover herself and her baby while she breastfed.

Connors, author of the popular parenting blog, Her Bad Mother, wrote this about her experience in a post titled “Under The Blanket:”

When she approached me in my seat near the back of the plane, blanket in hand, I ignored her. Jasper was tucked in at my breast, wrapped in his own blanket, his head pressed against the white half-moon of flesh that was barely visible beneath him. His head was damp from the stream of tears that had been running down my cheeks from the moment of our departure, the tears that I'd held back while saying my goodbyes. I bent my head over his, shielding my face, my breast, my baby, my tears from view with the veil of my hair. I didn't even look up when she spoke to me.
Excuse me, perhaps you'd like to cover up with a blanket?
Connors isn't the first mother to express discomfort with the treatment she received during in-flight breastfeeding. In 2007, a Sante Fe, N.M., woman filed suit against Delta Air Lines and Freedom Airlines, after she was allegedly kicked off a flight for breastfeeding her then 22-month-old daughter.

These incidents, while more than two years apart, serve to illustrate the debate raging now about public breastfeeding.

The American Association of Pediatrics says breast is best for your baby. But many feel uncomfortable when women breastfeed in public. Just ask Bill Mahr, who riled up mothers everywhere when he spoke out against public breastfeeding.

It's hard to find out whether or not airlines have specific breastfeeding policies, and I'm not even sure if it's legal to prohibit a mom from feeding her babe using her preferred method.

No one wants to be uncomfortable, that's a fact. And when you are trapped on a plane with no where else to go, that discomfort can be amplified, no matter what its cause.

Lots of mothers feed their young children in-flight, to help prevent them from disturbing other passengers with their cries.

What's your take? Should airlines have specific breastfeeding policies, or is it a parent's prerogative to feed her baby in the manner she prefers, no matter where she is?

Tough question, isn't it?



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Sep 19, 2008 9:28 PM Reply Guest elizabeth

What the AAP says about breastfeeding has nothing to do with covering yourself up. She had a blanket so what was the big deal? Was she wearing it like a turban? Why did the attendant say anything then? I breastfed all the time in public. I don't get these women that are all about toting them around on the boob in the wild. The pack of stuff you have to carry with a baby lends lots of articles for covering up decently.

Sep 19, 2008 10:04 PM Reply Guest Mamasphere

No, not a hard question at all. Of course a woman should be able to breastfeed, no matter where she is. End of story.

Sep 20, 2008 2:31 AM Reply Guest pammie

I have to agree with Mamasphere--not a hard question for me at all, but maybe that's because now I have experience as a breastfeeding mom. I feel strongly that I should be able to feed my baby when I want, where I want, and how I want, and sometimes that How doesn't include a blanket or "article for covering up decently." I can't imagine the outrage I'd feel if an airline tried to take away my right to feed my child. Would they take a bottle of formula away from a formula-feeding mother? Am I wrong for doing what the AAP says is best for my baby? Is more affordable for my family? Who is an airline to judge?

They're breasts. Women have them. GET OVER IT.

Sep 20, 2008 8:42 AM Reply Guest Amy Hatch in response to: pammie

I agree 100 percent, Pammie and Mamasphere. I know some people are uncomfortable with breastfeeding, but what about the feelings of the mom who is just trying to take care of her child? She doesn't have anywhere else to go when she's on that plane, and if her baby is hungry, she has to feed. Judging is judging, no matter what. I liked your point about the bottle.

Also, if airlines are going to behave like this, then they need to have the guts to put it in writing, so women can fight it. If the airline is vague, it is hard to pin them down and take action against it. Very sneaky.

Sep 20, 2008 12:52 PM Reply Guest Meg

I think you should be able to breastfeed anywhere, anytime. If it makes other people feel uncomfortable, imagine how the feeding mother feels that someone is staring at her child and her breasts? That would make the other person a sexual predator, huh? Airlines should have written policies as should the US government.

Blanket-free breastfeeding as well. I had a tough time BF and was never able to get a latch and feed while fiddling with a blanket.

Now what about pumping on a plane? 'Cause if you can't BF, you have to pump. That I can see making someone uncomfortable (as it was actually doing the pumping).

Sep 20, 2008 2:05 PM Reply Guest Amy Hatch in response to: Meg

Meg, it is actually a state issue. You can see the state laws regarding breastfeeding here:

http://www.ncsl.org/programs/health/breast50.htm

So what jurisdiction would you be in while in the air? Again, sneaky.

Sep 20, 2008 2:52 PM Reply Guest Meg in response to: Amy Hatch

Right now it is a state issue, that is why we need a federal law. I can BF in public in CA, but when we go to visit grandma, I may be arrested for public indecency.

Sep 22, 2008 11:53 AM Reply Guest Joie

Wherever, however and we need a federal law to make sure of it. Barring a federal law, we need something that applies to travel by plane, train, etc. My boy was not an easy nurser. He wasn't all that fond of bottles, either. He would pop off the breast all the time and if I tried to cover up, up would come his little hand and bye-bye blanket. One person's issue with the possibility of a little nudity doesn't even compare to the need of a baby to be fed in what the AAP says is the best way to feed. I would always go to the most discreet place when in public because he didn't allow me to be discreet but on a plane there is no place to go. If someone doesn't want to look then they shouldn't.

Sep 22, 2008 12:09 PM Reply Guest Kris

I've flown with my daughter several times (including to address unexpected family emergercies - my mom fell ill and was in ICU 800 miles away), and fortunately, people have never bothered me when I've nursed (no blanket - the planes were hot and stuffy). I'd probably have lost it if they had. Keep in mind tha BFing equalizes the pressure in the ears on take off and landing. Letting a child nurse at will really does everyone a favor: baby, mom, and the vast majority of folks who don't like being on a plane with a screaming baby. Avert your eyes if seeing a child nurse is too much for you. Let babies and toddlers nurse on planes and wherever else; it's about food and caring for our kids, and nothing else.

Sep 22, 2008 1:11 PM Reply Guest J in response to: Amy Hatch

Actually, as you point out, it may not be a state issue at all. Regardless of where you are, I'm not sure any state prohibits breastfeeding in public places. You are, however, on the premises of a private business, so their policies would also affect your freedom to nurse.

For a summary of airline policies (or their responses), see:
this list of carriers.

Sep 22, 2008 1:39 PM Reply Guest Annie in response to: Meg

As J points out, it isn't really a state issue. You could claim that it is a state issue if the incident occurs on the ground. However, airlines are federally regulated and if the incident takes place in the air, then federal law applies. If the airline is flying from one country to another, it becomes even more complicated (which country's laws apply).

Anyways, as J points out, good to know the airline's policy (and thanks for linking to my post on that!).

Sep 22, 2008 2:31 PM Reply Guest Kirsten

OK, I'm South African, not American, and I have no idea what the laws are in regards to this in my country, but this kind of thing still makes my blood boil. Maybe it's because I'm Pagan, maybe it's because I'm tired of patriarchy - call me a feminist. Maybe it's because I don't think any woman should be ashamed of her body.

News flash people: The function of breasts is to hold the mammary glands, in order to produce milk for the young in mammal species. In fact, the etymological route in "mammal" and "mammary" are the same. We are mammals because we nurse our young.

The function of breasts is not to provide eye candy for lonely men looking to get their rocks off on **** sites. They are not purely sexual organs. The act of breastfeeding is not a sexual act so I completely fail to see why people are so uncomfortable with it. You try explaining to a child that young that "oh, sorry, mommy can't feed you right now: she's got to protect the delicate sensibilities of the prudes around her."

I started babysitting my nephew when he was 4 months old, and up to that point he had only ever been breastfed. He refused, flat out, to take a bottle. I had to deal with a screaming, angry, STARVING baby for about 8 hours a day until his mother, my sister, came to fetch him and feed him. Eventually, after we switched him to solids early about two weeks later, he became accustomed to taking food from me and finally took a bottle.

But take it from me, a screaming, angry, starving baby is not a fun thing to be around. And sometimes, breast is indeed best for them - at least in their minds. By all means, insist on mothers covering up their children's faces (most of them hate that, by the way, speaking as a preschool teacher, and scream anyway), insist that the child take a bottle, when they may not want to, or when the mother may have strong views on that.

If you want to share a plane with a screaming, angry, starving baby - then by all means, do so. Otherwise, if you want to preserve your eardrums and your sanity, do us all a favour and avert your eyes if it bothers you.

(P.S sorry about the really long rant... O.o)

Sep 22, 2008 3:06 PM Reply Guest cdnmom

In Canada you have the right to breastfeed in public and is protected by the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms. Here's the info: http://www.infactcanada.ca/Breastfeeding_Rights.htm

A woman should be able to breastfeed on a plane no matter where she is and she shouldn't have to cover up. People shouldn't look if they are uncomfortable. I think most people on a plane would rather see a mom breastfeed than hear a sceaming baby.

Sep 22, 2008 3:59 PM Reply Guest Debbie Dubrow

Amy,

Thanks for a great post. I've flown a lot with my two kids. I breastfed my daughter on flights up and down the West Coast, to Europe, and back home again. Sometimes she was covered up, but usually she wasn't (she hates to be covered, and her screaming either because of the cover or because her ears hurt doesn't serve anyone's best interests.) I got some looks, some leers, and some comments, but my confidence that I was doing the right thing made them easy to ignore.

My son was never physically able to breast-feed, and I pumped for him for 9 months. On long European flights, that meant pumping mid-flight. I got some strange looks, but luckily nobody ever stopped me.

I get questions on my about breast-feeding on planes all the time on my website. I think it's one of the things new moms are most worried about... the close quarters in an airplane make something that is usually a very private experience (even when it's done in public) much more available for comment. Besides that, the logistics can be difficult, do you bring a boppy? when do you start nursing? Do you need to nurse if baby is already asleep?

My biggest advice? Regardless of our rights, nobody wants to make the person sitting next to them uncomfortable (and nobody wants to sit next to an angry person for an entire flight). As the passengers next to me boarded, I tell them that I will be nursing during the flight, politely saying "if you're uncomfortable, I'm sure someone will be happy to trade seats with you." Nobody has ever taken me up on it, but I think it sets the right tone.

On airline policy... I've never seen a publicly published airline policy on breastfeeding (and I've read a lot of policies) but a few weeks after the incident in Santa Fe, an Alaska Airlines flight attendant did say to me "you know, we're not allowed to ask you to cover up anymore." I thought that was a great start!

Sep 22, 2008 7:13 PM Reply Guest marty

I would much rather see a flash of boobie than listen to a screaming baby.

That being said, I try my best to be discreet out of respect for other people. It's not my fault if they are ignorant and uptight, but I can be polite about the whole thing. Then scoff at them later. Because I'm mature that way.

Sep 22, 2008 7:35 PM Reply Guest Krista

I think I'm going to pretty much just second what Joie said. My son would NOT handle a blanket and I had a hard time nursing up until he was at least 6 months old.
So, thankfully we didn't go on a plane until he was 1 and down to morning and evening nursing.
I think there should be a federal law that states that as long as a child is nursing then no one should be allowed to say anything. Seriously. How would they like it if we told them their eating was "gross" and "not allowed" when they were starving hungry? I have yet to see a mother really trying to "flaunt" anything while feeding a hungry child.
And I definitely agree that barring a federal law every airline should have a written policy. And if it's not a good one then we can complain until it is (or just boycott that airline).

Sep 22, 2008 8:22 PM Reply Guest Emily R

I have to say I have never had anyone give me any issues about breastfeeding on a plane. They seemed to know it was the best way to help the baby with the pressure and thought it was a good idea. When I originally read the post, I wondered whether maybe the flight attendant actually was trying to make her feel more comfortable. If you have never breastfed, you might think someone actually wants a blanket to use. Of course, I am sure it was all in the tone...

Sep 22, 2008 9:18 PM Reply Guest zellmer

The reason public breastfeeding makes people uncomfortable is that society has sexualized our breasts in a way that runs contrary to the reason we have them in the first place. Ugh! This makes me so mad. We have breasts for the sole reason of feeding our infants. What's the f'ing problem?

Sep 23, 2008 3:35 AM Reply Guest Carrie

It makes me so sad that breastfeeding mothers are made to feel this uncomfortable. I nursed each of my three children for about a year each and I can't tell you how many times I felt so incredibly uncomfortable and unsupported while out and about.

Now, I am a modest person. I never intentionally let my boob hang out - but if my baby was hungry I should have not felt uncomfortable feeding him anywhere, especially in an airplane where the pressure on a little one's ears could be made so much less painful by . . . sucking. What's the best way to soothe a baby? Let them do what comes naturally, suck on something. Be it a bottle, a binky or a breast. Who cares?

Sep 23, 2008 8:18 AM Reply Guest Wendy

I feel for all these women. I have breastfed 2 babies for about 9 mos each and never encountered any problems. And yes, I even breastfed my 5 mos old on a plane to CA. I may have gotten looks, but no one ever asked me to cover up. If they had I would have been angry and told them to mind their business. Quite frankly, there are many things that others do that bother me, but I keep it to myself and mind my business which I think many need to do in these situations.

The big problem is that we tolerate a lot from the adults around us, people talking loudly on cellphones or the guy who won't shut up next to you for the entire flight, but we can't tolerate babies who have no choice and only want to eat or be soothed. However, if you can't quiet that baby while on a plane all **** will break loose. I say we let our babies cry and when people get frustrated with that, we tell them that a little bit of flesh ain't so bad.

Sep 23, 2008 9:52 PM Reply Guest Auds

I think there should be a blanket, federal law that covers this. It's a matter of nourishment for one thing, and for another, people need to get over their own preconceived notions of what breasts are for and stop being so gorked out when they see a woman and child doing what comes naturally.

I have been shocked to see the lack of response from WestJet to Catherine's complaint and those of the women who wrote on her behalf.

Sep 23, 2008 11:40 PM Reply Guest veganlinda

People need to get over it. The child is NURSING. It is NOT SEXUAL. The stupid magazines they have on the flights have more sexuality than a mother nursing a child. Good grief, America, grow up! Sorry, I've been nursing non-stop three children (not at the same time) for 8 1/2 years now and if I had to go into the bathroom or cover up with a blanket every time my child nursed, I would become a hermit. Let us please embrace the fact that breastfeeding is the healthiest way to feed a baby and support those people who give their children the most natural food they will ever have.

Sep 24, 2008 11:02 AM Reply Guest Sus at Wigglerooms

I'm sorry. I have no patience and no sympathy for opponents of this issue. Mothers should be allowed to breastfeed any way, any how. Get. Over. It. Folks.

Sep 29, 2008 4:14 AM Reply Guest Madeline

Airlines definitely need to be more understanding of breastfeeding in general. I flew on a 14 hour flight earlier this year with my 9 month old baby. The airport we flew from did not allow us to take any bottled water onto the plane (even purchased after security) and when we asked for a bottle of water on the plane the attendant would only give one of those small foil lidded cups, even once we explained I was breastfeeding and would need much more over 14 hours. I guess she thought we could just keep pressing the call button? Luckily a more understanding attendant overheard and snuck us a full size bottle.